Well, I decided to take her advice. In my last post, I went over a list of things you can do to remember your loved one's memory during holiday celebrations. I considered each one from the standpoint of, "Which of these activities can I do without stressing myself out?" So I ruled out the balloons because I won't have time to go buy them after work, and I didn't find a poem that really expressed how I felt, and I'm out of time to look for more poems, and when I thought about it, I really didn't want to mess with having lit candles around the house and being worried about someone knocking them over...
So! I settled on two things. One, I asked one of my friends to bring over a stocking and some pretty note paper for writing messages. She said she was glad I'd asked her to help, AND she volunteered to bring her amazing Pup-peroni Chex Mix too. That was a good phone call!
Second, I have decided to use one certain lamp for my memorial light instead of a candle. I do like the idea of the memorial candle, especially since a reader responded to my last post and told me about the Jewish tradition of Yahrzeit candles. Yahrzeit is Yiddish for "a year's time." A candle is lit for 24 hours on the anniversary of a person's passing and some holidays. I liked this idea a lot. It's beautiful, symbolic, and something I can handle without causing a lot of extra stress! So I've plugged my special lamp into one of the timers for our Christmas lights. It will come on at midnight tonight, shine all day, and turn itself quietly off the next midnight. I'll put a favorite picture of us underneath the light. Maybe it will be my new Christmas tradition.
What a relief! The anticipation really is worse than the holiday. Now that's decided, I feel like a weight is off my fluffy shoulders.
Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night...'s sleep!!!
Yawning,
Bea
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